Today I had some time to get lost in my thoughts and reflect on my life. I was thinking about relationships, particularly relationships we have within our cherished family unit. I was thinking about relationships we have with our parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews/nieces, grandparents, our partners, and our child (or children).
Because of some prior stuff I had on my mind today, I found myself particularly lost in deep reflection about “children,” in regards to being a parent. I would like to share some thought with you on the subject. I think this will all mean a bit more to those of you who have children, but it will definitely apply to those of you who are aunts and uncles or those of you who plan on having children in the future, be it near or far.
It doesn’t take too much thought to realize, family life is one of the most important aspects of our well-being and that raising our children is the ultimate of all life’s responsibilities. As parents, it’s squarely on our strong shoulders to bring up well-educated, confident, well-adjusted, well-balanced, happy, productive, physically and mentally healthy adults. We should never lose sight that today’s children (our children) are tomorrow’s future! (It’s ultimately important that we indeed provide a bright future!)
At first glace, family life and the “home” environments we create are way more important than one might think. Family life not only brings meaning to our lives, but to our children’s lives and yes the lives of the people around us. As parent it’s our duty to create a safe, secure, calm, positive, supportive environment filled with laughter, love and a strong feeling of belonging. As parents we are the anchor, the un-moveable rock, un-breakable foundation that can weather any storm in it’s path, the secure life and safety line for our kids that will assure their bright and successful futures.
It’s very strange that raising and providing for our children, is the ultimate sacrifice, yet some how for the most part really doesn’t feel like a sacrifice at all. I’ve thought about this one a lot. I have to be totally honest and I am sure many parents will agree with me here, life with kids can be enormously challenging, tiring and yes very frustrating at times, but on the other hand, the experience can also be a wonderful, most rewarding, and almost a spiritually and uplifting experience.
Like most parents, I sometimes question, “how the hell am I going to do this”? I’ve found out.. you just do! At times I am not exactly sure how, again you just do. You trust in the Universe to provide, you do your very best, you have faith, you believe, you never give up and it seems to work out.
Unfortunately there is really no available “instruction manual”, although our elders can provide us with invaluable insight. I’ve quickly found out that, other than setting the best example we can humanly set, giving our kids the attention and time they need, providing them with a safe, clean home setting filled with endless love and laughter, there is little more needed.
As loving and caring parents we will always find a way, and don’t cloud your vision, it’s really not about material things (although it’s wonderful to provide when possible), it’s time, understanding, patience, and love that truly mean the most.
There’s an interesting and very fitting quote I came across written by Dr. Forest E. Witcraft; “Fifty years from now it won’t matter what kind of car you drove, what kind of house you lived in, how much you had in your bank account or what your clothes looked like. But the world may be a little better because you were important in the life of a child.”
That just about says it all my friends and fellow parents. No truer words have been spoken.
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